Hello guys! I hope you’re all well and feeling more amazing than ever. This week I decided to focus my blog post on dealing with negative people.
Lately I have had experiences where I’ve felt completely helpless trying to explain myself to people who have the most negative outlook on life. There are people out there who like to pick apart every part of you or the things you do. They like to be in control of how you feel and how you act. How do they do this? Well, I think it’s just another form of bullying. If someone is bringing a person down simply to make themselves look superior, it is not right. Some like to say nasty comments about you behind your back. Some might assume things about you and act upon it in a very rude and negative manner. Some might swear at you, some might make you feel awkward by they way they act and talk to you in general. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable by how they speak to you or how they act when you’re around, it is not okay.
I struggled to understand that myself. I kept thinking ‘oh it’s fine because maybe it’ll pass, maybe it’s just the way they are’. Even if that’s just the kind of person they are, it is not right to put someone else down in order to make yourself feel better. It is not okay for anyone to want to be feel better than others while hurting their feelings in the process. If you are one of these people, I kindly ask you to stop. Look around you, the world is beautiful. Why not be kind? Why not help one another? Why spread hatred when you could spread happiness? Instead of bringing people down, what about lifting them up? I know it’s easy to make assumptions about other people’s lives but don’t do it.
Get to know the person before you say anything to/about them. When you approach people, be nice, be kind, be friendly. The world needs more people like that, not negative, rude and horrible people. Please process how you approach people, how you talk to people. It is so simple but if you are kind and nice to someone it might make their day so much better.
If you are experiencing any form of bullying or feel down about anything, please contact someone. You deserve to be happy.
If you are a UCB student, there are so many services out there to support you including counselling and medical services. My friends and I have recently started a society at UCB called Positive Minds. Anyone is welcome there. Let’s make the world a happier place.
– Helina x